As we approach the holidays and look forward to the New Year, it’s important to take time to intentionally reflect on and review who we are becoming. Times of transition allow us opportunity to take stock of where we are emotionally, relationally, professionally or spiritually.

The questions below are a great way to start that process – and you might even use them to deepen your conversation with family and friends around your holiday table.

I wish you and your family a wonderful holiday season, and I hope 2016 will be a transformative year for you.

Questions To Help You Reflect On The Past Year

As the year speeds to its end, we begin to mentally prepare for next year. But don’t forget to take time to assess your personal and professional challenges and accomplishments THIS year.

Here are some questions to ask yourself to help get started with that process:

  1. What have I accomplished this year? Be specific. Whether it’s accomplishing a professional goal, investing more deeply in a relationship or successfully committing to a goal, write it down. And schedule some time to celebrate these successes.
  2. What have I learned this year? Did you learn a new skill this year? Did your discover something about yourself or the world that changed your perspective? Sometimes the painful moments in life help us learn the most life-changing lessons.
  3. What got in my way? This is an opportunity to consider what kept you from your goals. Was it a destructive habit or fear? A lack of time management or a difficult relationship? Be honest about the ways your own self affected your goals. And if you need help removing these barriers to success, be open to seeking help.
  4. Who contributed to my successes? So much of what we accomplish involves others in our life — in our work place, home, or place of service. Take time to think about what you can do to recognize or thank these members of your personal or professional team.
  5. What mistakes did I make, and what did I learn from them? Thinking about our mistakes can feel risky, because it’s easy to get discouraged or feel negatively about ourselves. But taking time to learn from our mistakes is what keeps us from repeating those same mistakes. Perhaps consider writing them down as positive statements to remember in future situations.
  6. How was my work consistent with my values? People who feel content spend time behaving in ways or doing work that lines up with what they value. How would you rate the way you spent your time in relationship to what you value? Addressing the inconsistencies might mean a change in what you’re doing or an acknowledgement of another value.
  7. Where did I not take responsibility? One of the benefits of hindsight is seeing past situations without all the immediate emotion. Consider the roles in your life such as friend, spouse, parent, colleague, or employee. Are there any situations that occurred where you need to own your responsibility?
  8. How did my performance rate? In your daily work, give yourself a letter grade or a 1-10 score. Is this score consistent with other areas of your life? Does it accurately reflect feedback you’ve received?
  9. What do I need to let go of? This is a question that can be both painful and freeing. Whether it’s an object that has too much of your affection, a grudge that keeps making you angry, a dream or goal that’s distracting you what you are doing, letting go can mean making room for something else that’s good. It can help you move more lightly into the new year.
  10. What was missing for me this year? Consider the places where you felt absence or a lack of contentment. Can you pinpoint what it was that felt missing? As part of this reflection, think about what you might add to your life to remedy what is lacking.

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Next Steps

The path to becoming ourselves takes time and intention. Being able to review the past year and reflect on our successes and failures to use them as opportunities for growth is a healthy sign of moving forward. But sometimes these reflections are too painful for a person to process on their own, and you may need the support of a professional.

In our counseling group we place a very high value on helping individuals overcome the roadblocks that keep them from becoming their best selves. Whether its processing trauma, childhood wounding or other experiences that have led to negative beliefs, we’ve found that EMDR is an effective method for working through these blocks.

In our practice we’ve seen the effectiveness of EMDR therapy for helping people overcome road blocks to success,

To schedule an appointment or learn more about our team and how EMDR therapy can work for you, call us at 818-681-6627.

About Kay

With over 20 years of experience as a therapist and life coach, Kay is currently a private practitioner working with a broad range of clients. As an EMDR certified therapist and an EMDR consultant, she has completed several thousand EMDR sessions with clients, and has seen significant results from this area of therapy as people resolve stress, anxiety and trauma as well as focus on enhancing peak performance.

Phone: 818-681-6627