Kay Simmeth Counseling Group

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How to Go from Stuck to Action

We all have areas in our life we’d like to change. Taking positive steps towards that change can be hard, and sometimes feel like an insurmountable task. It doesn’t have to be that way!

In our practice, it’s a privilege to walk along side people as they confront issues in their life that are holding them back from success in relationships, work, or personal growth. When these blocks are removed, change really is possible. I hope this will spur you to take the steps towards becoming your best self.


How to Go from Stuck to Action to Empowerment

If you’ve ever been stuck in a rut of inertia—in life or business—you know the sense of helpless futility that seems to take over.

You want your life or business to change, but you feel powerless to do anything about it yourself. You may find yourself constantly making plans to improve these areas, but never manage to take action because something just seems to be holding you back..

Though taking action might feel intimidating or risky, it’s a practice that can empower you towards realizing your goals. If you learn to use it effectively, it can provide the fuel to keep you moving forward toward more fulfilling circumstances.

Dealing with the root of the problem

At the root of feeling stuck is a negative belief that needs to be overcome. Those negative beliefs create friction in a person’s ability to move forward. Taking action toward a goal does not have to be a “white knuckle” experience. Instead, a shift in perspective at a deep level reduces the friction, making movement forward possible.

Confronting what it is holding you back is important for enabling you to move toward your goals. For many people, reaching their peak potential requires professional help in processing those negative beliefs. EMDR is an effective therapy for empowering positive performance that has been hindered by past trauma and negative experiences.

When the friction of negative belief has been confronted, instead of desperately pushing yourself forward, action becomes a natural next step.

Action that builds momentum

Taking steps forward begins with an understanding that your life is the way it is because of your hesitation in taking action. This is important because you’ll need to understand the importance of moving forward, even when it feels difficult.

  1. Below are three simple steps to help you get started:
    First, decide on one action to take to get the ball rolling. Ask yourself which life situations you want to change first. You might choose your relationships, health, financial situation, business networking or anything else that makes you feel powerless and stuck.
  2. Then think about one simple action you can take to inspire some positive change. It shouldn’t be a huge action, just one thing to start building momentum. And remember, if taking that one step causes real anxiety or “white knuckles,” connect with a professional to help you deal with the root of the problem first.
  3. Once you’ve decided on your action step, you’ll need to follow through, even when it feels difficult or scary. Give yourself a pep talk or motivation to help you move forward with your action. After you take that first step, be sure to let go of any expectations about outcomes and allow yourself to feel great simply because you did something to move forward.


Repeat this process with the same action or with a new one. Once you’ve taken one step forward, you’ll need to follow through on making others. Consider this: even if you take only one small step a day, you’ll be putting forth positive effort to make changes in your life. This can’t help but bring about better circumstances.

The good news is that taking action quickly begins to build momentum. Just like chronic non-action can create a cycle of negativity and stagnation over time, being proactive can create a positive cycle that continues to grow. It gets easier the more you do it. Eventually, it will seem almost effortless.

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Next Steps

Recently, the Humans of New York (HONY) Facebook page ran a series of photos and interviews with clients and staff from the Headstrong Project, an organization using EMDR therapy to work with veterans suffering from PTSD. Although the stories of suffering are heartbreaking, the stories of help are inspiring. If you use Facebook, visit the HONY page to read these stories or read a related article here.

It’s no surprise to our practice that EMDR therapy works. That’s why we’re so committed to using it to treat not only “big T” Trauma, such as PTSD, but also smaller traumas that lead to emotional damage. We’ve seen how effective it can be in helping people overcome the negative hold trauma can have on their lives and free them to be their best selves.

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